So here goes nothing…
For you people who don’t know me, I’m a 31 year old Saudi male that is NOT married. My younger brother already married.
I don’t want to get married PERIOD. It’s just, I know myself too well, and I know marriage is not for me, why do I feel like I need to explain myself, I don’t really know!!!
Few days after my younger brother engagement, I was invited to a fashion show in Bahrain, and after that there was this party where they have dancing salsa and tango, you can pick up a partner and teach you some moves, and it was a blast. It was sponsored by the Philippines embassy.
I had to extra tickets, so who should I take with me; I took my Mother and our maid since she is from the Philippine.
That night, my mom met some of my friends, whom were fashion designers and dancers, both sexes male and female. and 90% of them were gay ^.^
mom had fun chatting with some of my friends, asked her if she felt like leaving the place, but she was happy, I thought change of her daily habits did her good. Or was it something else???
The next evening,
as I have very close relationship with my mother, she called me into her room, as she was sitting on her desk working, she switched glasses and asked me to close the door and sit.
My mom asking me to sit means something big is coming, I sat, and she looked at me and
Mom asked: Majid, Are you gay?
I said: does it matter? Or is it because I don’t want to get married?
Mom: I’ll still love you, you are my son, I want to help you but I need to know.
Just like that, I was shocked, horrified didn’t know what to say or do.
The rest is between me and her ^.^
I don’t think it important for you the dear reader to Know if I were gay or not, my sexual orientation is not the issue here.
I don’t know what the big deal, people would just ask out of the blue if I were gay or not?
man, even if I were gay I don’t think I would like to share such Sensitive information with a person I don’t know ^.^
This made me think of my gay friends and how they can’t have a real talk with their Mother or Father.
I feel sorry for a gay friend of mine, who is being JAILED in his own room by his family. Abused by his older brother and beaten. It’s just sad.
I feel sorry for a friend who doesn’t know what the outside world look like because he feels she is a woman and no one seem to understand HER.
I feel sorry for this society that condemns its own people before even understanding them or at least hearing them out.
Gay people here, do jail time.
Gay people here get put down and called names “you don’t need to be real gay, you just need to look like one!!!”,
Gay people here, get the death penalty I didn’t hear about any, and I hope nothing happened that I don’t know about
Gay people here are condemned by the society, Family, friend EVERYBODY!
Gay actions are condemned by the Islamic law.
Yet there are gay people, and people who stay gay.
If it was any other case, we as people tend to change based on outside factors that does not help us or don’t make our life easy.
I saw a few years back a documentary about Gay Muslims, and the point was, these people who are gay believe in Islam. Wanted to be known as gay Muslims. Even while known what the Islam thinks of gay people, they think they have the right to believe in whatever they want.
It’s not only Islam but most religions condemn gay activities.
The thing is, Gay people if they seek help, and usually helps means seeking people that would hear them out and not judge them; it turns to trying to fix that gay person, judging them and casting them away.
Do gay people need to be fixed???
This topic is a taboo, any topic that has a religion point of view that being said. That is final.
I don’t want to go in all religion talk.
But just think of it as a human, use logic. What can we do to help gay people?
A friend told me “gay people can be as gay as they want in your closed society, as long that they don’t publicly campaign for equal gay rights. Not in Saudi.”
And I agree with her, last thing you want to do is to have gay rights movement at such time,
I see more pressing issues that we need to work on first.
Such thing is Sexual Abuse
When I see the kind of abuse that happen to gay people or just any male or female I can’t stop but wonder what I can do to help.
Many times I have said, what I see in our society is “are not really gay people, sexuality is usually about getting laid and since it’s hard in our society to mix or be with the other sex, Homosexuality was the solution”
Here is a small story:
There was this kid he was 5 year old, That kid was wearing short on a hot summer day, a blue car stopped and a police officer came out, wow, a police man the kid was thinking, the officer approached the kid and asked him about the building next to his house and took him to the roof, and did what he had planned to do.
The kid was crying and screaming of pain and fear, the police man ran away, the kid went back to his mom crying, he told her what happened, she called his dad who was at work, he came, and took his kid to the roof place and the kid showed him what happened. Then took his kid to the police station and reported it.
I always had a phobia from police officers, when I get stopped by them for reason, my legs can’t carry me, I have short of breath and I shake.
I never understood why.
Yes, the kid was me, now I know; I never knew until recently, it was like a dream, I asked my mom about it she was surprised that I would remember.
another small story,
A girl was being abused sexually by her uncle, her own father brother; she didn’t know what to do or whom to talk to.
A teacher noticed her, she was smart but not anymore her grades are going down, she opened her heart to her, and she was shocked when she heard her story.
What been done you ask?, the father was contacted, who when got home beaten his own girl and accused her of lying, how could she say something like this about his own brother, the girl tried to kill herself after that.
No more school,
No more family,
No more life to live.
There are many stories like this, a complete stranger, a family member or a person of power.
We need to do something about it.
There are people out there that can help, but not in the right place or if they are don’t have the right tools.
Our society is so good at hiding the truth, and living in denial as if such things don’t happen in an Islamic society.
Sadly it does, and we need to something before it too late, it’s already late.
Ahhhh, that being said!
Note: I share my own story as I think this is a very important subject. I don’t like to add or talk about things just because of word a person said. I like to check and research to be 100% sure.